After divorce, it can be tough getting back into the dating scene when you are newly single. Depending on the circumstances of your divorce, either it’s a relief because it was so long coming or it blindsided you and you’re still reeling. Either way, it takes some time to adjust to your new normal and think about wading back into the dating pool [...]
You might be thinking of yourself as no longer desirable or valuable or craving intimacy like a dark chocolate bar after a month of clean eating, but it’s important to take your time and not dive too quickly into the deep end.
One article I saw talked about the types of guys to avoid when getting back on the dates:
Mr. Angry-I’m Divorced Too - He is quick to tell you how he got screwed over and can’t wait to hear all the ugly details of your divorce. While he may be tempting because you see a common enemy in the ex, anyone who harbors significant hostility toward their ex isn’t ready for another relationship.
Mr. Best Friends with His Ex - He casually works her into conversations, mentioning conversations or places they have been. It may be tempting to think he is forgiving and enlightened, but anyone who stays very close to an ex is usually trying to win her back.
The Player - He’s the super friendly guy who can talk to anyone, dresses to the nines, and is forever on his cell phone. While it may be tempting to think cozying up to a smooth operator will make you look better and make things easier, players go through women as quickly as they do their underwear.
The Shrink in Training - He doesn’t respect personal space and always wants to explore your feelings. While tempting because it would certainly be cheaper then counseling, this guy is only happy when you are unhappy.
Mr. Crazy Possessive - He vows to get back at your ex for hurting you. He wants you all to himself. While it might be flattering initially, jealous, controlling people can be emotionally unstable, and it can progress to scarier scenarios such as stalking or abuse.
Mr. Ashton Kutcher Wannabe - He is the one who hits on you and claims to have a thing for older women, claiming you are so much hotter than girls his age. While he may be tempting because you are flattered at the swooning attention, he is just looking for a booty call and bragging rights with his friends.
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Take time to pamper yourself - Divorce is stressful and can really take a lot out of you, especially your self-esteem. Treat yourself. Get out of town for a weekend or hit the spa for a day. You are worth it! I will keep the focus on you. You are the center of the universe, and rightfully so. Feeling neglected? I will make sure you get the proper attention you deserve-no distractions.
Keep living - Don’t retreat into solitude. Keep up with friends for company and support, but stay clear of “male chauvinist.” Keep conversations positive. Living in the past by rehashing old hurts will only keep you in a negative, depressed state if mind. Focus on building the future by meeting new people. I am an elite male escort educated and well traveled. I can talk about virtually anything and know how to have a good time.
Try new things - Trying something new will boost your confidence, and you never know who you might meet. I like to push the envelope and I’m up for anything. Want to go skydiving? No problem. Hiking? Piece of cake. I love introducing women memorable experiences.
Be the hunted, not a hunter - Don’t hunt or pursue men. It makes you look desperate. Build a full life after your divorce. Someone who is engaged in life is infinitely more desirable. Staying busy with your new life will help boost your confidence, and making someone compete for your time and attention will boost your appeal.
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